Inspiration Woman Bec Ordish answers Ten Questions.
I have never met Bec Ordish but I want to! Bec emailed me a short time ago to see if she could write for WonderWomen. I am always looking for inspiring, passionate, intelligent, active, socially conscious, kind women to write for WW, so when I read Bec’s email and bio, I knew I had hit the jackpot. Bec is passionate about learning and about life. She wears many hats through which she explores her passions, including running the MITRATAA Foundation, an organisation she founded 13 years ago to provide women and girls in Nepal with the skills and knowledge to empower themselves. Her dream is to be an ‘inspirationalist’ – someone who inspires others to believe in themselves and achieve their dreams, to find their gift to the world. She is currently studying her Masters of Wellness through RMIT and randomly blogs . She lives in Nepal with her two daughters, Nimu and Saraswoti.
I am thrilled to introduce Bec to the WW community via Ten Questions. So here goes:
1. What is the essence of being a woman?
Our intuition, our ability to multi-task and to tackle any challenge, and our passion – and compassion.
2. What do you feel unites women?
A successful life is a series of connections. As women, our ability to connect, share and love – ourselves, each other, the environment – unites us and creates a very powerful force. I have seen it time and again in Nepal, women creating an incredible support network with very little communication required. It is an intuition, a sense of belonging with a resulting energy that never fails to inspire me.
3. How do you stay strong, assertive and feminine?
I think it is about staying true to yourself, to your values. If you know who you are and what you believe in, staying connected to that brings with it a strength and self-confidence which enables us to assert our rights and needs without dominating others but navigating sensitively towards a mutually beneficial outcome.
Having said that, saying ‘no’ is not one of my strengths so I am not sure I have the solution to this. I wear many ‘hats’ in my life and never want to let people down, plus I get so excited about opportunities that I sometimes get carried away and overcommit. I often wonder if this is a side-effect of women being able to multi-task and being sensitive to everyone’s needs that we are not so good at saying ‘no’ and taking care of ourselves sometimes.
4. What and who inspires you?
The girls and women I have the privilege of working with in Nepal. Their strength and resilience in spite of the challenges they have faced never fails to inspire me. And their ability to dance together, wildly, always puts a smile on my face. There is nothing quite like an impromptu dance session with a group of Nepali women for a sense of powerful love and connection.
5. How do you live your life so it has meaning?
To me, a meaningful life is a life lived authentically – I follow my gut instinct. If I am not passionate about something and if I am not learning something, I don’t want to do it!
I often ask the people I coach what a “meaningful life” looks like to them and they have never considered the question. How can we achieve a goal when we don’t know what ‘success’ looks like? For me, I have my 6 Greatness Questions which I use as part of my morning meditation:
- 1. What will I do today to make a difference?
- 2. What will I do today to show my passion?
- 3. What will I do today to show my commitment to continued spiritual growth?
- 4. What will I do today to inspire others?
- 5. What will I do today to innovate new ideas?
- 6. What will I do today to show my commitment to developing world class trust with everyone I come into contact with?
6. What contribution would you like to make to benefit humankind?
Every single one of us has a gift to offer the world. Some people just find theirs harder to identify than others. I would love to inspire others to find their gift, to believe in themselves and to be grateful for everything they have. There is nothing more powerful than the combination of our passions, belief in ourselves, and gratitude. Imagine what could happen if everyone followed their passion and strengths and believed they could achieve their dreams. What possibilities!
7. How do you stay calm under pressure?
I am not sure I am very good at this! But I try to focus on being grateful for the lessons and opportunities being presented, for the Cheer Squad of people around me who believe in me, and on remembering that people don’t (generally) do things TO me, but rather FOR themselves. This takes the edge off any frustrations and helps to reframe the issue. Meditation and mindfulness also help – one step at a time, one challenge at a time, one foot in front of the other.
8. How do you move from dream into action into completion?
This is my passion! I love this question.
Here’s my problem. We don’t wait for every light to be green between here and our destination before leaving home. We simply set out on our journey and deal with whatever happens along the way – whether it be red lights, detours, speed humps, short cuts, traffic jams. We know we will eventually arrive at our destination. Yet with our dreams and goals, we expect to have everything planned, every potential problem ironed out before we begin. It doesn’t work like that! We have to program our desired destination (dream/goal whatever) into the GPRS, then set off one step at a time and deal with things as they arise.
I have a Recipe for Dreaming which we use with the girls and women we work with in Nepal which I also use in my own life:
- Passion – We are much more likely to achieve our dreams if we pursue something we are passionate about and/or good at.
- Belief – We must believe we can achieve the goal and believe in ourselves. We must also have a Cheer Squad who can help keep us motivated and believing in ourselves when the inevitable challenges arise.
- Persistence – The reality is that we’ll encounter “speed bumps” or challenges along the way. That’s part of the journey and these are all opportunities to learn and grow. We must keep trying.
- Plan – Without a destination in mind, we’ll go around in circles and never achieve our dreams. The actual route must be flexible to allow us to adapt and take advantage of opportunities along the way but some guidelines and a destination are crucial.
- Hard Work – There’s no escaping it, no short cut! It is going to take hard work. This is why having a dream we are passionate about and believe in is so important. It helps the hard work feel more like fun.
It’s the last ingredient which often trips people up! But it’s worth it!
9. Three words to describe how you maintain a life balance.
Laughter. Cuddles. Conversations.
10. If you could ask any woman one question, what would you ask?
“Let me be your angel – how can I help?”
Someone once asked me this question during a very stressful time in my life and I will never forget the incredible feeling of relief it gave me. I felt like I was being wrapped in a fluffy blanket of love and support. Paying it forward is an important gift I love to give.